Do not speak ill of the dead. It was one of the rules I grew up with. Unlike so many of those other once-cherished codes that have now been jettisoned as stuffy or hypocritical, it still seems to hold sway. Or at least that has been the case with obituaries of the Revd Ian Paisley, Free Presbyterian minister and the former leader of the Democratic Unionist Party in Northern Ireland.Yes, that he could be a bit outspoken and intransigent was a common theme found in the page after page of tributes, but while he was spitting out hatred in public, we were told, he was a lovely chap in private. And he was ever so nice to his Catholic constituents if they came to him with problems about their bins being emptied, even as on public platforms he was denouncing their religious leader as the anti-Chr