Clifford Longley (26 October) writes that, “Though painful on both sides, [people divorce because] it is the best answer they can find to a problem they cannot handle.”  In Marriage Care, we’re all too aware that many people give up and move on when their marriage hits a rough spot, seeing no way forward from the pain they are experiencing. The trouble with relationships is that problems are not static and change with the fluctuating context of the enduring marriage. It is the continuously successful negotiation of those everyday and sometimes extraordinary problems in married life that produces a state of marital satisfaction, happiness and contentment. Sadly, many couples give up without getting support when they find themselves unable to work through the difficul