It is heartening to hear Archbishop Diarmuid Martin of Dublin admitting that the Irish Church needs to take a “reality check” and to “re-engage with young people” after the gay marriage referendum (see News from Britain and Ireland). The question remains as to whether the “re-engaging” is about looking to teach or to listen. In my view, the “re-engagement” needed is about the latter. In listening they may hear something of the Christian values which underpinned the decision by so many young Irish people to vote as they did. Chris Larkman, London SW20While Archbishop Martin has acknowledged the need for a “reality check”, sadly, our Catholic tradition has all too often encouraged us to mishear the promise that “the Spirit wi