Lapsed Catholics may be lost to the Church (“Diocese fights back to win lapsed”, News from Britain and Ireland, 7 February) but are never lost to their grandparents, mothers, fathers, sisters and brothers. They are also always thought of and prayed for when we go to Mass.They attend Catholic family funerals, weddings and baptisms. They need our understanding of the many complex reasons – not all bad – why they no longer go to Mass, [such as] when they ask for baptism for