On reading the document “The Call, the Journey and the Mission” issued by the Bishops of England and Wales (News from Britain and Ireland, 3 January), I noticed with astonishment the wording of the marriage vow quoted: “I promise to be true to you, in joy and in sadness, in sickness and in health; I will love you and honour you all the days of my life.” I gather this is the Continental version and was quoted by Pope Francis.However, the Old Sarum Rite still used in the UK is “I take you, X, as my wedded wife/husband to have and to hold from this day forward, for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health till death do us part”.Do the words “to have” mean sexually possess? If they do, as I so believed when I took that