From Christmas to Epiphany our focus understandably turns towards the Holy Family. I do not know about your family, but among my clan no one is canonised, immaculately conceived or the Son of God. The Holy Family is a tough act to follow. We are, however, told to imitate them in “bonds of love”. I tried that once – with mixed results.My family is not demonstrative. We do not have those “love you, darling” sign-offs at the end of every phone call. A firm handshake for the men and a peck on the cheek for the women is as good as it gets.During my final high-school retreat I was challenged to “never leave this world not having told the people that you love, that you love them”. At 17 I had never told my mother, brother or sister I loved them and they