Was the Synod on the Family a missed opportunity? There were all our esteemed church leaders, grappling with the messy, slippery problems of family life. But instead of trying to work out what they, the churchmen, should be telling us, the families, I cannot help wondering if their time might have been better spent sussing out how we manage to square our circles. Like those church leaders, we parents spend our lives trying to do the best by our wayward, ungovernable, sometimes delinquent family members. Sometimes things get so tough we cannot imagine how we will come through; other times, we end up making decisions and allowing behaviour we would never have imagined we would sanction. But we muddle along – and, just occasionally, it even works. Could church leaders learn from our ch